Are You Sure You Are A Two Pump Chump?

About a third of the population of men have been agonizing about premature ejaculation and how to last longer to please their women; but, has it ever occurred to some of them that they may not have a problem at all, and possibly their partner does?

Contrary to popular fantasy, good satisfactory sex time, that is, from penetration to climax, lasts between three to thirteen minutes. Beyond that range, you’re probably performing in the realm of sexual athleticism. So, if you do ejaculate within the average time range, you don’t really have a PE problem. If your partner can last longer than thirteen minutes, then he or she may have difficulty reaching climax instead; hence the unusual stamina.

How about, however, if both of you climax within the normal time range but somehow you finish somewhat at the low normal boundary and your partner often gets the woohaa somewhere in the upper range of say, twelve minutes? Now, here lies the problem.

You’re both normal healthy sex fiends; but you’re just a tad more excitable and sensitive than your lover is. So what to do to match your partner’s normal longevity?

First, you must be realistic enough to know that results aren’t instant; patience and practice are the keys. Having said that, you may need to do some sexercises to up your endurance:

Stop and Start Masturbation:

You may have heard about this a lot but never bothered to try. Well, it works! Start wacking and pay close attention to the spectrum of sensations. Note the degree of feelings in stages as you build up to that moment at which you’re close to the point of no return. When you’re at the verge of popping that lid, stop and squeeze below your johnson’s head to apply firm pressure on the urethra, that little duct running on the underside of the penis. This’ll stop the cumming; a bummer, yeah, but worth delaying the fun. Once your arousal starts decreasing, start stroking again, taking your time, and repeat the squeezing bit. The whole point is to help you recognize your pleasure levels and the juncture at which you need to delay your grand finish. Trust the sex therapy masters, you won’t regret it.

Do Kegels:

Surprise! It’s not just women who are exhorted to do this to earn their brownie points in bed. You’ve got to strengthen those PC (pubococcygeal) muscles of your pelvis to have great control over your ejaculatory responses. The difference though is that your kegel exercises are much more fun, as you get to play with, believe or not, your piss. With a full bladder, urinate for a while and then cut off the flow. Start and stop repeatedly. Once you’ve pretty much isolated those muscles, you can practice contracting them for 8-10 seconds at a time, doing as much sets while driving, having coffee, whatever. Later on, as an old geezer, you will thank yourself for developing strong pelvic muscles that will help delay a tendency towards incontinence. So do those kegels for your future health and dignity, too.

This other alternative has nothing to do with working toward your orgasmic mastery; but it may work just as well.

Wear a Condom:

Okay, if you’re such a lazy lout and can’t be bothered to do the above, a condom may be the way to go. A barrier may just put a slight damper on your sensitivity and help prolong the inevitable. There are condoms available with numbing medications such as lidocaine and benzocaine but this shouldn’t be your choice if you have sensitive skin or have erectile dysfunction issues. Besides, with these desensitizing agents, you may go over the bounds of a normal good time. Unless your partner is also vying for sexual athlete par excellence, you may leave him or her sore and in a rather bad mood for the next round.

Of course, if you’re a finisher under the normal bounds, then it’s time for a counselling expert and perhaps, some medical advice. In this case, premature ejaculation is a real problem which may have both psychological and physical roots. There is a promising topical treatment that’s still in the works; but this is a topic that should well be discussed in another post. For now, focus on improving yourself below the belt. A little sexercise never hurt anyone.