Ideally every one of us would have sex that would last for hours on end. A true stud, able to ejaculate on command. But let’s get back to reality, which is that 85% of men have very little control over when they orgasm. But it doesn’t have to be this way! With a little practice, some elbow grease, and maybe even some lubricant, you can learn to control your orgasm without thinking twice.

To have control over when you ejaculate, you need to identify the steps and triggers leading up to the orgasm. Every guy has a crossing point, a point when all chances of controlling an orgasm are lost. Most people are pretty good at identifying this point of no return, but if you aren’t, we’ve lined out an exercise to help you figure it out.

Determining Your Crossing Point Through Your Excitement Levels
This is an exercise you’ll have to practice at home, all by your lonesome. If you can achieve orgasm without any movies or magazines that’s great! This will allow you to focus on the mental processes of going from erection to orgasm. If not, that’s OK too, but you won’t be able to get as good of an idea of exactly what’s happening. This is almost like a meditation exercise. You must be very focused and in tune with what your body is experiencing.

1.Slowly stroke your penis, bringing it from a flaccid state to a full erection. Once you’ve reached a full erection, close your eyes, and take in every feeling.

2.The longer you focus, the more sexually excited you will become. Try to pinpoint the moments you reach a higher levels of sensation.

3.As you reach each new level of sensation, attempt to maintain it for 2 minutes. Don’t break focus on the sensations you’re feeling at any point.

4.Analyze every feeling you experience. What is causing the sensations? Your grip? Motion? The thought of a particular person? Remember, the point is to go slow and understand every aspect of every new level of excitement. Rushing through this exercise will completely kill its effectiveness.

5.You will eventually start nearing in on your crossing point. We’re going to label this as a 10. Now go back and think about each level of sensation and assign it an appropriate number in comparison. Once you reach level 9, pay attention to growing volume of semen and increasing pressure. Use all your energy to hold back on ejaculating.

6.Hold on for just a few moments longer. Every bone in your body will be telling you its time to orgasm, but you must maintain focus. Do everything you can to prolong the sensations of level 9.

7.It’s now time to enjoy the fruits of your labor! Go ahead and finish off.

Not everyone will see huge improvements at first. But keep at it. Preventing an early orgasm takes plenty of practice, but is well worth the wait. Your partner will certainly think so. But this is just the first of many exercises you can use to increase the time before orgasm. Once you’ve practiced all of them regularly you will have total ejaculatory control.

Controlling Your Breathing For Delayed Orgasm

Controlling your orgasm with the act of breathing is so simple that most people and doctors overlook this technique entirely. There is a right style and wrong style of breathing during sex. After this short test you will know what breathing pattern you fall into.

Start taking very deep breathes. If you notice that your chest and shoulders are moving more than your stomach, it’s time you modified your breathing. Instead of breathing with your upper torso, try to breathe using your stomach.

As you approach level 8 of excitement, take in a deep breath and notice your level of excitement slowly decrease. Continue taking deep breaths till your excitement has stabilized, then you can get back at it. You can use this technique multiple times during a single love making session.

The Stop Technique
This technique is pretty self-explanatory, but is a proven method that has been used for many many years. Right as your about to achieve orgasm, stop everything that you’re doing, and avoid all contact.

If you stopped in time you’ll be able to mellow out, and get started again in as little as 30 seconds.

Many men avoid this technique when they are having sex, as to not offend their partner. But this is one of the most powerful weapons in your arsenal. But if you can plan ahead, and think on top of your toes, you can make use of this technique without her ever knowing.

Scenario #1: If you’re receiving a blowjob, and notice your level of sensation increasing rapidly. You can still make use of this Stop Technique, without being completely obvious.

*Be upfront. You don’t have to directly admit that you’re orgasm is coming early. Just tell her that the sex is so great, you don’t want it to end. Hopefully your partner will agree, and she probably will, and they’ll be more than happy to oblige your request.

*Whip out your best dirty talk lines and by yourself some extra time. Distract her for just a short while and you have time to simmer down, or change things up entirely.

*Switch things up and return the favor. Women love nothing more than when their men go down on them. Delay your orgasm and turn her on in a huge way. Win-Win!

Scenario #2: You and your partner are far beyond foreplay, and you’re quickly approaching the point of no return. If you don’t do something quick, you’ll explode. Better use the Stop Technique before it’s too late!

*Again, just be upfront. Women typically take longer than men to orgasm. She’ll be more than happy to slow things down so you can both orgasm at the same time. This may be hard to pull of in the middle of intercourse, especially if you both are really into it. But it can’t hurt to try.

*If you are both on the verge of orgasm, there is no need to stop! Even if you could keep going, finishing simultaneously will really make her day, and yours.

*The most discrete way to apply the stop technique is to change positions. You can even turn it up a notch and go down on her again. This takes a little foresight, but is the easiest way to keep going, without her ever knowing something is up.

These are just a few of many ways you can apply the stop technique during intercourse. Come up with your own ways to last longer. You’ll be buying time, and in most cases impressing your partner by switching things up and focusing on her needs.

Controlling Your Breath and Using the Stop Technique Together
If you thought these techniques worked great on their own, just wait until you try them together. Both you and your partner will be really impressed by what you can do with both techniques combined.

1.Begin stroking your penis until you’ve reached a full erection. Closing your eyes again, you focus in on every sensation your penis experiences. Again, this is better done without any material to distract you.

2.As you progress through the different stages of excitement, be aware of every change in sensation. Assign each stage a different number. Level 1 being a chubby, and level 10 being the point of no return.

3.With every different level of excitement, try to hold it for 2 minutes. While it is important that you don’t move up the levels 2 quickly. It’s equally important that you don’t start losing your erection either.

4.As you did before, take close note of what is pushing you to the next level of sensation. Is it your rhythm? A particular person or memory? The tension of your fist around your shaft? Whatever it is, you need to first identify the cause in order to avoid it during sex.

5.When you think your right in the middle of the 6th level of excitement, apply the Stop Technique.

6.Avoid all contact and breathe deeply for a few moments. Before long, you’ll feel ready to pick up where you left off. Repeat this step as you cross through each new level as you come closer to orgasm.

7.Continue to tease yourself each time you stop. As you reach level 10, you can continue to reel yourself back in, each time increasing the sensation. You can finally enjoy the orgasm you worked so hard for.

The Squeeze It Out Technique
This technique can be used during intercourse and masturbation. Just before reaching the point of no return, quickly wrap your thumb and index around the shaft, just below the head of your penis. This is a great time to make use of the breathing and stop techniques.

Alternatively, you can wrap your 2 fingers around the base of your shaft. Both ways are very effective, but most men have a preference for one that works best for them. We suggest you try them both and and determine which method is best for you.

Distraction Techniques
Many men think of sex as a purely physical act, but most women would disagree with this statement. Women know that sex is much more about what’s going on up stairs. Knowing this, we deduce that by taking your mind of the sensations of sex, you can gain great control over your orgasm.

1.Focus On Your Partner
When you notice yourself quickly climbing up the levels of excitement, you’ve got to do something fast. Forget about achieving your orgasm altogether, and focus on your partner. Try to get her up on your level. By simply removing yourself from your own orgasm you can greatly improve your stamina.

2.Focus On The Rest of Your Body
Before you even got undressed, chances are you were thinking about your penis, even if you weren’t aware of it. During sex, as you grow closer to the point of no return, divert you attention to other parts of your body. Your penis isn’t the only thing that experiences sensation during sex. Distract yourself by making sex more than just about your penis.

3.Avoid Your Turn Ons
Most men don’t even notice they’re getting too close to orgasm before it’s too late. There’s usually a single mental or visual trigger that pushes us past our tipping point. Try to pay close attention to what exactly is turning you on and avoid it. This is essentially a highly developed version of the Stop Technique.

What NOT to Focus On
Somehow the idea was spread many years ago, that distracting yourself from orgasm with your favorite sports team, daily news, or even the death of an childhood pet, was a good idea. If you completely remove yourself from the entire sexual experience, it won’t be long before your partner catches on.

Both physical and mental techniques can have a huge impact on your sex life. With regular practice of these techniques, you and your partner will have the best sex of your lives. Train your brain and your penis to have total control over your orgasm. You and you’re partner will be happy you did.