Ideally every one of us would like to have sex that would last for hours on end. A true stud, able to ejaculate on command. But let’s get back to reality, the fact is that 85% of men have very little control over when they orgasm. But it doesn’t have to be this way! With a little practice, some elbow grease, and maybe even some lubricant, you can learn to control your orgasm without thinking twice.

Your Point Of No Return: Finding Your Crossing Point

To have control over when you ejaculate, you need to identify the steps and triggers leading up to the orgasm. Every guy has a crossing point, a point when all chances of controlling an orgasm are lost. Most people are pretty good at identifying this point of no return, but if you aren’t, we’ve lined out an exercise to help you figure it out.

Exercise #1: Explore Your Excitement Levels and Find Your Crossing Point

This is an exercise you’ll have to practice at home, all by your lonesome. If you can achieve orgasm without any movies or magazines that’s great! This will allow you to focus on the mental processes of going from erection to orgasm. If not, that’s OK too, but you won’t be able to get as good of an idea of exactly what’s happening. This can be viewed as a meditation exercise. You must be very focused and in tune with what your body is experiencing.

Steps	Instructions
1.	Slowly stroke your penis, bringing it from a flaccid state to a full erection. Once you’ve reached a full erection, close your eyes, and take in every feeling.
2.	The longer you focus, the more sexually excited you will become. Try to pinpoint the moments you reach a higher levels of sensation.
3.	As you reach each new level of sensation, attempt to maintain it for 2 minutes. Don’t break focus on the sensations you’re feeling at any point.
4.	Analyze every feeling you experience. What is causing the sensations? Your grip? Motion? The thought of a particular person? Remember, the point is to go slow and understand every aspect of every new level of excitement. Rushing through this exercise will completely kill its effectiveness.
5.	You will eventually start nearing in on your crossing point. We’re going to label this as a 10. Now go back and think about each level of sensation and assign it an appropriate number in comparison. Once you reach level 9, pay attention to growing volume of semen and increasing pressure. Use all your energy to hold back on ejaculating.
6.	Hold on for just a few moments longer. Every bone in your body will be telling you its time to orgasm, but you must maintain focus. Do everything you can to prolong the sensations of level 9.
7.	It’s now time to enjoy the fruits of your labor! Go ahead and finish off.

Not everyone will see huge improvements at first. But keep at it. Preventing an early orgasm takes plenty of practice, but is well worth the wait. Your partner will certainly think so. But this is just the first of many exercises you can use to increase the time before orgasm. Once you’ve practiced all of them regularly you will have total ejaculatory control.

Control Your Breathing For A Delayed Orgasm

Controlling your orgasm with the act of breathing is so simple that most people and doctors overlook this technique entirely. There is a right style and wrong style of breathing during sex. After this short test you will know what breathing pattern you fall into.

First, place your hand on your stomache and begin taking very deep breaths. If you notice that your chest expands or your shoulders rise, it’s time you modified your breathing. Instead of breathing with your upper torso, try to breathe using your stomach. This perfectly normal, many professional oprah singers breathe this way and although it may seem awkward at first you’ll soon get over the weirdness as your body begins to adapt to the new breathing style. Although it may not seem like much, it will greatly impact the techniques we’ve outlined for you below.

As you approach level 8 of excitement, take in a deep breath and notice your level of excitement slowly decrease. Continue taking deep breaths till your excitement has stabilized, then you can get back at it. You can use this technique multiple times during a single love making session.

Words Of The Wise: Make sure that you only hold your breath for a few seconds. You can’t learn to control your breathing if your passed out on the floor.

In order to delay your orgasms more easily during intercourse, combine what you’ve learned so far about breathing with the techniques shown below.

The Stop Technique (Hold Your Fire!)

This technique is pretty self-explanatory, but is a proven method that has been used for many many years. Right as your about to achieve an orgasm, stop everything that you’re doing, and avoid all contact.

If you stopped in time you’ll be able to mellow out, and get started again in as little as 30 seconds.

Many men avoid this technique when they are having sex, as to not offend their partner. But this is one of the most powerful weapons in your arsenal. But if you can plan ahead, and think on top of your toes, you can make use of this technique without her ever knowing.

Scenario #1: If you’re receiving a blowjob, and notice your level of sensation increasing rapidly. You can still make use of this Stop Technique, without being completely obvious.

Steps	Instructions
1.	Say "Sex kitten you feel so amazing inside and I want to enjoy it for a bit longer so let me catch my breath and come back down to earth so I can please you even longer." Be upfront. You don’t have to directly admit that you’re orgasm is coming early. Just tell her that the sex is so great, you don’t want it to end. Most likely your partner will agree and they’ll be more than happy to oblige your request.
2.	"Hey I have a great idea, the next time we go out to the beach you should dress up as a nun and I’ll dress up as a priest. Then whenever someone walks by we’ll start making out like crazy, LIKE THIS…" This is where you would start making out with your partner. Why would you do this? Well it should be obvious, you’re trying to stall for time so that you can use that moment to bring your excitement levels down. After a minute or so, you can smoothly guide your penis back inside your partner.
3.	"I always feel like I take take take and sometimes I want to give give give. So it’s my turn to go down on you, just relax and enjoy because this only happens every blue moon" In other words, switch things up and return the favor. Women love nothing more than when their men go down on them, trust us. Delay your orgasm and turn her on in a huge way. It’s a Win-Win situation if you ask us!

Scenario #2: You and your partner are far beyond foreplay, and you’re quickly approaching the point of no return. If you don’t do something quick, you’ll explode. Better use the Stop Technique before it’s too late!

Steps	Instructions
1.	Say "Sweet bottoms your pussy feels so tight around my cock which is why I want to hold off cumming for as long as possible." Then, stop and withdraw your penis and take 30-60 seconds to catch your breath. Being upfront with your partner nips misunderstandings at the bud. Also, you can stop without completely withdrawing; however, if you’re partner is encompassed in the moment that she’ll continue moving which will push you past your point of no return.
2.	If you are both on the verge of orgasm, there is no need to stop. Keep plugging away soldier! Even if you could go longer, try finishing at the same time she does; it’ll create a bond so uplifting and rare that she’ll fall head-over-heels for you (no pun intended) if she hasn’t already.
3.	The most discrete way to apply the stop technique is to change positions. You can even turn it up a notch and go down on her again. This takes a little foresight, but is the easiest way to perform longer, without her ever knowing that you’re stalling to bring your excitement level down.
4.	Remove your penis from inside your partner and then say "You feel so amazing inside baby, I seriously can’t get enough of you! I bet you taste like honey down there too. I guess there’s only one way to find out…" Then take a few deep breaths and go down on her. Not only will this give you time enough to maintain ejaculatory control, but your partner will continue her ecstasy without too much of a break.
5.	When getting close to your point of no return, withdraw your penis and rub her clitoris with the tip of your penis – back and forth, up and down. Take it a step further and use circular motions, sprinkled in with a few tender and playful slaps on her clitoris. Then smile playfully and say "I swear I’m not teasing you. But when your pussys naughty, I have to punish it a little." This sets a playful yet confident tone while stimulating her and delaying your orgasm at the same time.

There are a variety of ways to apply the stop technique during intercourse. Be creative and come up with some of your own ways to last longer. And if you’d like, you can even e-mail us about it. Who knows, if we end up liking it so much we may even post your version of the stop technique on here. The whole point is to buy yourself some time to simmer down, and in some cases this also includes impressing your partner by switching things up and focusing on her needs.

Combine Breathing Control With The Stop Technique

If you thought these techniques worked great on their own, just wait until you try them together. Both you and your partner will be really impressed by what you can do with both techniques combined.

Exercise #2: Control Your Breathing And The Stop Method

Steps	Instructions
1.	Begin stroking your penis until you’ve reached a full erection. Closing your eyes again, you focus in on every sensation your penis experiences. Again, this is better done without any material to distract you.
2.	As you progress through the different stages of excitement, be aware of every change in sensation. Assign each stage a different number. Level 1 being a chubby, and level 10 being the point of no return.
3.	With every different level of excitement, try to hold it for 2 minutes. While it is important that you don’t move up the levels 2 quickly. It’s equally important that you don’t start losing your erection either.
4.	As you did before, take close note of what is pushing you to the next level of sensation. Is it your rhythm? A particular person or memory? The tension of your fist around your shaft? Whatever it is, you need to first identify the cause in order to avoid it during sex.
5.	When you think your right in the middle of the 6th level of excitement, apply the Stop Technique.
6.	Avoid all contact and breathe deeply for a few moments. Before long, you’ll feel ready to pick up where you left off. Repeat this step as you cross through each new level as you come closer to orgasm.
7.	Continue to tease yourself each time you stop. As you reach level 10, you can continue to reel yourself back in, each time increasing the sensation. You can finally enjoy the orgasm you worked so hard for.

The Squeeze It Out Technique

The Squeeze It Out technique is simple. It can be used during intercourse or masturbation. Just follow these steps:

Steps	Instructions
1.	From the very beginning of intercourse, you’ll be coming closer and closer to your point of no return. When you begin to feel yourself come to this point, stop and withrdaw your penis from your partner. Inhale and exhale deeply a few times. While you continue to take deep breaths, use your thumb, index and middle fingers and squeeze just below the head of your penis. This will subdue the potential orgasm and once you begin to notice your level of excitement diminish, you can continue having sex.
2.	Another option that’s available is instead of squeezing just below the head, you can choose to squeeze the base of your penis. First, try a flat squeeze (using your thumb, pointer finger, and middle finger like wood boards). Next, try a ring squeeze (completely wrapping the base of your penis with the same three fingers mentioned in the previous sentence). Use whichever technique brings your excitement level down. And in the case that both get the job done, utalize the one that gets it done faster.

Alternatively, you can squeeze the base of your penis and stop your orgasm while still inside your partner. Simply stop having sex, inhale and exhale deeply a few times and squeeze while the need to ejaculate recedes.

Change Your Focus And Obtain Greatness Warrior!

Many men think of sex as a purely physical act, but most women would disagree with this statement. Women know that sex is much more about what’s going on "upstairs". Knowing this, we deduce that by focusing your mind on the correct sensations of sex and immersing yourself in the moment, you can gain great control over your orgasm.

1. Focus On Your Partner

Most men penetrate their woman like a bee penetrates a flower, as just a simple every-day act of one exchange for another. But what they fail to realize is that sex goes beyond the realm of physical pleasantries. It’s not just an outlet to relieve your stress or to take advantage of the pure blissful moment between two sexual beings.

Think of it this way, every woman has a special something – it could be that intoxicating smell that uplifts your soul, that alluring curve in her body, that sexually vibrant energy, the longingness to be penetrated deeper then any man’s sense of reality. The key is in understanding this: if you focus all your energy, attention, body, and soul into the shallowness of ejaculating for your sole benefit, then you’ll lose yourself in your self-centered ways.

However, should you primarily focus on your partners needs and cater to them in unpredictable ways then not only will you delay your orgasm but more importantly you’ll shatter all her predicted expectations of that moment and you’ll penetrate your partner deeper and more profoundly then if you were hung and had the combined skills of every male pornstar in the world.

2. Focus On The Rest of Your Body

Before you even got undressed, chances are you were thinking about your penis, even if you weren’t aware of it. During sex, as you grow closer to the point of no return, divert your attention to other parts of your body. Your penis isn’t the only thing that experiences sensation during sex. Distract yourself by making sex more than just about your penis.

3. Avoid Your Turn Ons

Most men don’t even notice they’re getting too close to orgasm before it’s too late. There’s usually a single mental or visual trigger that pushes us past our tipping point. Try to pay close attention to what exactly is turning you on and from there you can shift your attention towards other elements of your partner. This is essentially a highly developed version of the Stop Technique.

What NOT to Focus On

Somehow the idea was spread many years ago, that distracting yourself from orgasm with your favorite sports team, daily news, or even the death of an childhood pet, was a good idea. If you completely remove yourself from the entire sexual experience, it won’t be long before your partner catches on.

Final Conclusion:

We’ve just covered a lot of material on delaying your orgasm so come back to this page for future reference anytime. Both physical and mental techniques can have a huge impact on your sex life. With regular practice of these techniques, you and your partner will have the best sex of your lives. Train your brain and your penis to have total control over your orgasm. You and you’re partner can experience the peak of sexual pleasure most only dream of.

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